I am not sure I’ve ever had as many people tell me that
Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday as I have this year. I usually don’t ask them why they feel that
way. I guess I like to imagine the
reasons. Or maybe their expressed
sentiments just launch me into thinking of my own Thanksgiving experiences and
I become too mentally preoccupied to ask.
As a child Thanksgiving granted me a short week at
school. It meant turkey (I really think
that was the only time of the year I ate turkey in any form), cool days to play
in the backyard with my brother (when we weren’t fighting), romping in the
leaves we had raked, and swinging on the rope swing our dad had hung in the big
tree.
Such simple pleasures.
And they stand in stark contrast to what Christmas has become. It’s almost trite now to say Christmas has
become too commercialized; it’s so obvious.
It’s a mad rush, with so much pressure to finish the shopping, pick the
right gift, not forget anyone, write Christmas cards (I don’t think I’m the
last one that does that), and bake. To
businesses, Thanksgiving has just become the gateway to Black Friday, the annual
Christmas shopping days countdown, and their push to make us spend money we
don’t have. They pretty much ignore
Thanksgiving otherwise.
And I’m okay with that.
This holiday is golden to me, and I don’t want them to touch it because
they’ll turn it into dross. Let them go
straight from Halloween to Christmas rush.
Leave Thanksgiving to the rest of us.
Joshua Rogers, a writer and attorney who lives in Washington , D.C. ,
wrote a poignant essay about Thanksgiving this week. He related his own experience growing up
without a father and being embarrassed and ashamed by having to get free lunch
at school each day because he was poor.
But he ended the essay powerfully as he recalled just what Thanksgiving
meant to him and should mean to us:
I wonder who might be sitting around your Thanksgiving
table this year being blessed with more than turkey and pecan pie. What kid —
young or old — is finding solace in that moment where they finally belong? You
never know what’s going on in people’s minds and hearts around the Thanksgiving
table, but it can be a sacred space.
Thanksgiving
is a holiday where the gift is the presence of people who welcome you, whether
you’re related to them or not. There’s no price to be paid, no expectation that
gifts must be given. No matter how out-of-place some of us may feel the rest of
the year, if we get Thanksgiving right, it’s an invitation to enjoy free lunch,
to feel loved without feeling any shame.
Whatever
your financial situation, slow down right now.
Don’t let the Christmas rush sweep you up in its tide. Let the Thanksgiving spirit continue, and
savor the often overlooked most valuable things in your life. Rich or poor, a spirit of thankfulness is a
tonic, an antidote to materialism and the temptation to measure all things by
money.
Happy
Thanksgiving.
Roger
“When you become successful, don’t say ‘I’m
rich and I’ve earned it myself’.
Instead, remember that the Lord your God gives you the strength to make a
living.” Deuteronomy 8:17, 18 CEV